Recovery Resources

Below is the beginning of a list of resources we have found helpful. Please take some time and browse the categories and check back often to see what we have added.


Click on a link to take you directly to that section. Books and Websites also have links. The links for the books will take you to

  1. Addiction and Recovery
  2. Support for Partners
  3. What Do We Tell the Children?
  4. Protecting Your Children
  5. Relationships and Addiction
  6. Marriage and Relationship Issues (Not Related to Addiction)
  7. Abuse Survivors
  8. Resolution of Trauma
  9. Eating Disorders; Cutting; Self-Harm
  10. Understanding the Brain and Addiction
  11. Spiritual Growth and Development
  12. Recovery Programs for Clergy

Addiction and Recovery

Carnes, Patrick. Contrary to Love: Helping the Sex Addict. Center City, MN: Hazelden.

Carnes, Patrick. (1992). Don’t Call It Love: Recovery From Sexual Addiction. Center City, MN: Hazelden.

Support for Partners

Carnes, S. (2011). Mending the Shattered Heart: A Guide for Partners of Sex Addicts. (2nd Ed.). Carefree, AZ: Gentle Path Press.

Steffens, B. & Means, M. (2009). Your Sexually Addicted Spouse: How Partners Can Cope and Heal. Far Hills, NJ: New Horizon Press.

What Do We Tell the Children?

Websites: These sites have information that is helpful to open the discussions with children about the dangers of porn, as well as help caregivers protect their children and themselves.

Enough is Enough: Making the Internet Safer for Children and Families. This site has multiple articles that are helpful in protecting yourself and your family. They also have filtering software available. This is a faith-based organization that has many resources for churches and individuals. Information and programs are available for teens, as well as adult men and women.

Gary Wilson has both a book and a website that is packed with great information about what porn use does to the brain…especially the adolescent brain. This site is well worth checking out…

Protecting Your Children

Georgianna, C., Underhill, T. & Kelland, C. (2010). Hyperstimulation: Teens, Pornography and Online Addictions. Brea, CA: The Center for Psychotherapy.

Weiss, R. & Schneider, J. P. (2014). Closer Together, Further Apart: The Effect of Technology and the Internet on Parenting, Work, and Relationships. Carefree, AZ: GentlePath Press.

Relationships and Addiction


Marriage and Relationship Issues

Gilbert, R. M. (1992). Extraordinary Relationships: A New Way of Thinking About Human Interactions. New York: John Wiley & Sons.

Gottman, J. (2013). What Makes Love Last?: How to Build Trust and Avoid Betrayal. New York: Simon & Schuster.

Johnson, S. (2008). Hold Me Tight: Seven Conversations for a Lifetime of Love. New York: Little, Brown & Co.

Johnson, S. (2013). Love Sense: The Revolutionary New Science of Romantic Relationships. New York: Little, Brown & Co.

Tatkin, S. (2012). Wired for Love. How Understanding Your Partner’s Brain and Attachment Style Can Help You Defuse Conflict and Build a Secure Relationship. New Harbinger Publications.

Abuse Survivors

Resolution of Trauma

Black, C. (1999). Changing Course: Healing from Loss, Abandonment, and Fear. Center City: MN: Hazelton.

Fossum M.A. & Mason, JM. J. (1986) Facing Shame: Families in Recovery. New York: Norton & Company.

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