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Changing Lives, Healing Relationships

Resources for Partners

Discover helpful information for those whose partner struggle with sex, porn, or love addiction, as well as betrayal by infidelity. 

 

External Links

 

Below you will find helpful information about the impact of discovery on partners, as well as national options for treatment.

btr.org Betrayal Trauma Recovery provides free podcasts and educational resources and affordable daily, online group sessions in multiple time zones. Download the free BTR Checklist.

Vicki Tidwell Palmer. Vicki Tidwell Palmer is a therapist and author of Moving Beyond Betrayal: The 5-Step Boundary Solution for Partners of Sex Addicts.  Her website has helpful information and treatment options for partners. Her online courses are a great supplement to individual and group treatment options offered by Counseling Alliance therapists. 

Bethesda Workshops in Nashville TN. Find help here for many issues related to sex and porn addiction, as well as the impact of trauma. Bethesda Workshops are offered for partners on a regular basis. There is good information here about the impact of discovery on partners. Check it out. 

https://www.apsats.org/. Founded by pioneers of the trauma approach for treating partners, the APSATS organization is made up of a diverse group of treatment providers, life coaches, and others who are dedicated to the training and certification of Partner Specialists from a “Multidimensional Partner Trauma Model” approach

https://addorecovery.com/ has two locations in Utah and one in Las Vegas. This site has many well produced videos and articles with very helpful information. Time spent on their website is a good investment.

https://bloomforwomen.com/ describes their site as one that provides "therapeutic online courses and a supportive community designed by clinical experts for women who want to heal from the trauma of infidelity, betrayal, harassment, or assault. We believe that healing is possible and that everything you need to take the next step is already inside you. We’re here to help you discover it. 

https://www.malepartnersoffemalesexaddicts.com/resources/. This site provides resources for males whose partners struggle with sex, porn, or love addiction.


 

Books, Blogs, & Videos

 

Book Recommendations

A House Interrupted: A First Person Perspective. Corcoran, Maurita (2011).   Arizona: Gentle Path Press. 

Back from Betrayal: Recovering from His Affairs. Schneider, J. (1988).  California: Harper & Row

Deceived: Facing Sexual Betrayal, Lies, and Secrets. Black, Claudia(2009). Minnesota: Hazelden.

Disclosing Secrets: When, to Whom and How Much to Reveal. Corely, D. & Schneider, J. (2002).

Facing Heartbreak: Steps for Recovery for Partners of Sex Addicts. Carnes, S., Lee, M., Rodriguez, A., (2012). Arizona: Gentle Path Press.

Carnes, S., Lee, M., Rodriguez, A., (2012). Arizona: Gentle Path Press.

For Love and Money: Exploring Sexual & Financial Betrayal in Relationships. Debra Kaplan.

Intimate Deception: Healing the Wounds of Sexual Betrayal. Sherri Keffer.

Intimate Treason: Healing the Trauma for Partners Confronting Sex Addiction.

Black, C., Tripodi, C. (2012). Nevada: Central Recovery Press.

Living With a Sex Addict: The Basics from Crisis to Recovery. Linda Hatch

Mending a Shattered Heart: A Guide for Partners of Sex Addicts. Carnes, Stefanie (2008).  Arizona: Gentle Path Press.

Moving Beyond Betrayal: The 5 -step Boundary Solution for Partners of Sex Addicts. Tidwell, Palmer, V. (2016).  Central Recovery Press.

Open Hearts: Renewing Relationships with Recovery, Romance, and Reality. Dr. Patrick Carnes, Debra Laaser, and Mark Laaser

Surviving Disclosure: A Partner’s Guide for Healing the Betrayal of Intimate Trust. Schneider, J., Corley, D. (2012)  Recovery Resources Press.

Your Sexually Addicted Spouse : How Partner s Can Cope and Heal. Steffens, B., Means, M. (2009) New Jersey: New Horizon Press.

Hope After Betrayal: Healing When Sexual Addiction Invades Your Marriage. Wilson, Meg (2007). Monarch Books.

 Articles / Blogs

3 Biggest Mistakes Betrayed Partners Make When Creating Boundaries. https://vickitidwellpalmer.com/3-biggest-mistakes-betrayed-partners-make-creating-boundaries/

Betrayal Trauma Recovery’s Podcast. Helpful information and inspiring stories.

Disclosure.   Formal Therapeutic Disclosure.  https://vickitidwellpalmer.com/formal-therapeutic-disclosure/

Gaslighting.  You’re Not Going Crazy: 15 Signs You’re a Victim of Gaslighting. https://lonerwolf.com/gaslighting/


Videos /Free Courses

https://bloomforwomen.com/courses/ Dr. Kevin Skinner and Addo Recovery two web sites that have a wealth of information for addiction in general and partner support in particular. It is well worth checking out! Watch Dr. Skinner’s TEDx Talk here.


 

Online Support

 

Partner's Healing & Empowerment Online Community.  https://vickitidwellpalmer.com/forum 


 

12-Step Resources

 

•      COSA 12-Step Recovery for Partners of Sex Addicts

•      S-Anon 12-Step Recovery for Partners of Sex Addicts

•      Infidelity Survivors Anonymous (ISA)

•      Recovering Couples Anonymous (RCA) 

 


 

Other Workshops / Intensives

 

 Bethesda Workshops – Nashville  “Healing for Partners”  4 day workshop.  For women who personally struggle with pornography or other forms of sex or relationship addiction(Note: this program has a Christian orientation).

Pine Grove Women’s Center– Hattiesburg, MS. – This program treats addictions, trauma, and mood disorders. It’s one of the best.

The Meadows - Wickenburg, AZ. This workshop is created for women who want to explore unhealthy sexual patterns and behaviors that deeply impact their ability to connect relationally in healthy ways. Emotional regulation, body image, triggers for sexual acting out, and grief related to the myriad of associated losses are just a few of the many issues that are explored.